London Trip: Thoughts and Observations

     I recently came back from a vacation across the pond and while the weather was “on and off” that didn’t stop me from traveling or sightseeing. England is a really big place (well, depends on who you ask) so it is really impossible to see everything in such a short time (A week) which is why you research and choose what you feel is of importance to you on this go around.Which I did and I’m happy to say more or less that my goal was reached and accomplished (minus the 2 things recommended by a friend that I didn’t know about).

 So, based on everything I did, let me tell you about what I thought about the stuff I did.

HOUSES OF PARLIAMENT

   This is the heart of London where everything happens. Going through I tried to compare it with our version of the Senate and House (not sure if it’s an accurate description though) and here, it’s defined as the House of Lords and the House of Commons. You can tell that the building is steeped in History by it’s design. Not only that, but there’s one room where all the Queens and Kings hang (including the current )and I stopped and “visualised” what it was like back then. All the sculptures of people who are long, long gone that passed through even the door that Charles 1 walked through . There’s a reason why you need to knock now as apparently, Charles 1 stormed through this door demanding the head of 5 people he said commited treason (If you look closely, the door is still damaged and ironically, if you look above the door, the wall is damaged from the bombs of WWII. Churchill aid to leave as is as a reminder).

You actually enter from a place called WESTMINSTER HALL which was built in the 1500’s and is very significant because it’s also called THE GREAT HALL  because it’s where a few people lied in state here such as Churchill. Also, it’s where leaders come to speak (Mandela, Obama). Unfortunately, I wasn’t allowed to take pictures except for in this room.

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Stain Glass window

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Over the years, this has been renovated but it’s the original design

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WESTMINSTER ABBEY

  This is older then Parliament by about 500 years (give or take) and it’s a church, cathedral, cemetery, memorial.. Basically an all in one and I’m not exaggerating and here’s why.

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      Basically, how this works is that you go through it (It’s one big area) and as you go off with Jeremy Irons (He’s your guide) you really have to take a look at the gothic design and the detail that went in to it.It’s massive, beautiful and lots of thoughts went into it. You walk past the final resting places of ome of the early monarchy such as Isaac Newton, King Henry (the first one who also was one of the original designers), his wife, Edward (I forgot which one) Mary Queen of Scots and even some modern day people who are paried beneath the floor (You can’t see them but if you stand on their name plaque, it’s the spot where they are “resting”) even those not buried here (like Willie Shakespeare) still have a memorial to them including Handel who was German.

    I should also mention that on display is the coronation chair that was used for Queen Elizabeth and of past Q and K’s (It is still being used). Here is also where Princess Di and Charles , Willie and Katie got married.

  It’s also open to anyone who finds themselves wanting to pray during services. I do however recommend you going to check this out no matter your religion.

CRUISING DOWN THE THAMES

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Tower of London View From Other Side Of Thames

TOWER OF LONDON

I didn’t know about this and was recommended by a friend but boy is this a chilly, eerie place. This place has 6 live Ravens living here for it is said that should they leave, the Tower will fall. No idea if it’s true but as Lenin once said

“Tell a lie long enough and it becomes truth”

Anyway, this was a massive Tower/Fortress  that was protected from all sides

 It also said that nearby is where Anne Boleyn was executed. There is a monument here to attest to that fact.

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A monument that says this is the site where Anne Boleyn was executed by Henry the 8th

Pretty much I learned a little bit here . One thing that is interesting here is that the staff live on the premises with family and that they are part of the royal guard that works for the Queen. The evidence is there because on the site also houses the Crown Jewels. Basically the royal crowns, scepters and everything among them.

    It truly is a magnificent place  and I can go on and on but I won’t so let’s go on shall we?

ROYAL ALBERT HALL

    This was actually not in my plans however I was close to where I needed to be so I figured it’s a really famous and well know place so I figured why not? Anyone who’s anyone has performed here (currently home to Cirque Du Soleil). Because I went on a guided tour, I was able to go where it’s usually off limits such as the Queen’s waiting room and her box (technically the Royal Box). Oh, and apparently there’s a royal bathroom which we couldn’t see but can’t imagine how it would be any different.

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The View From The Royals Box

I did a walking tour which was fascinating in and of itself and discovered that Big Ben is named after a guy named Ben who was a pretty big fella (true story). Also, for some reason, only UK residents can go inside it. Not sure why but this is an odd thing really. Oh, but the clock still works. It chimes on the hour.

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The Famous Pic/Movie Scene

Well, I spent a week here and pretty much accomplished what I set out to do and the other things were just bonuses. I even got to do 4 things in one day . The problem is that there’s lots to see not just in London so you’d have to plan another trip just to see it. For example:

  • Shakespeare’s House: This is way, way out there. It could be done but you’d have to go early in the morning. There are different  opinions on whether or not he’s buried here as well.
  • Windsor Castle: This is the main dish if you will. The place that holds the final resting place for KIng George VI(Lizzie’s Pop), his wife, daughter (I think)… Her name is Margret).. It’s also the place of many other royals . Interestingly enough, Princess Di isn’t buried here. She unfortunately is off limits to the public. The closest you can get to her is via her monument in Hyde Park.  Also of note: It’s still used today . Actually it’s one of the Queen’s residence . This is a nice place to visit if you have the time but it’s between 3 and 4 hours to get there so plan accordingly.
  • Stonehenge: This mysterious monument tells a story. There are conflicts regarding the Stonehenge. How it got there, who built it, what it represents… But it is considered by some as one of the seven wonders of the world. And, not far from here is the famous
  • Bath Houses. Not Turkish. Not English but Roman. Yep. And it is still in use today. In fact, for a fee, one can go swimming in these waters. Untouched, these are the actual houses which would make them thousands of years old (I’m guessing here).

Believe it or not, England is a HUGE place with so much to see and do. It is unfortunate that you can’t see EVERYTHING in one trip (Unless you stay here for a month or two) but a lot of this is for anyone who is a history buff and/or just to see famous “movie locations”. (You won’t find the GoT set anywhere here).

England is older then America. Way, way, way old. And yet, they were barbaric for most of their existence and I think most ,if not all, of England still suffers from that today. It is interesting to not however that the monarchy meant something all those years ago. Today, it is just a name in title only. A figurehead. Yet, the Queen still has a say in some Government matters and there’s still a hierarchy but only because it’s been that way from generation to generation (kinda tradition at this point) but England isn’t the same as it used to be? No. Can it or will it revert to it’s past?  No and even if it wanted to it couldn’t because of the Magna Carta (which I happily got to see ).

And that’s why the history is so important not just for England but for us all because at one point in time we were all under British rule.It wasn’t just America, (New York was named by the English by the way as it was supposed to be a gift for the Duke of York), but other countries like S. Africa, Israel, Canada (which is still under the Monarchy it seems). And it is important to remember why we wanted to be free of their rule and why we wanted our independance.

England today by definition is a Catholic country (I think) but it was because of the separation of Church and State which was a very important time in England’s history. It is this point that made it what it is today and without it, who knows what would have happened. That being said, I like to think that England’s history is our history because it is who we are. It is who we became for without them, who knows if we would have ever become The United States of America? And it is for this reason and this reason alone that we must reflect on the history and the politics of English rule and society .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Great Kosher Restaurant Magazine Scavenger Hunt is On

THE FOLLOWING POST IS BEING WRITTEN BY A GUEST BLOGGER
By Bracha Komarov
     Whether you’re a kosher restaurant “foodie” or you just like to go out to eat once in a while, The Great Kosher Restaurant Magazine Scavenger hunt has fun for everyone. The magazine advertises over 200 top kosher restaurants worldwide, their menus and other pertinent information. Elan Kornblum, also known as “The Restaurant Guy,” first published the magazine in 2004. To celebrate its 10th anniversary, a scavenger hunt has been going on which gives teams of family and friends chances to try new dishes while advertising on Facebook about the great restaurants in the magazine. Now in its third and final week of the hunt, each week there are 30-40 “challenges” that teams must try to accomplish. Some of the challenges were as simple as taking a selfie in front of a GKRM restaurant, while others were taking a picture of video trying dishes in certain restaurants. Some challenges took lots of guts – singing menu items in opera voice, singing happy birthday with a store manager, and even asking a non-GKRM restaurant own why he isn’t in the magazine. With 30+ teams competing, there’s a lot of competition going on. You can check out the website to see what it’s all about and you can still join a team or create your own for the last few, fun days. Visit The Great Kosher Restaurants Scavenger Hunt  for more about the hunt and  http://www.greatkosherrestaurants.com/ for more about the magazine and to order your must-have copy!

Truth in Advertising

The internet is a powerful weapon. It can be used for good or evil. It’s both a blessing and a curse in the hands of humans. Same goes for Facebook. Case in point: In a few weeks, there will be a holiday we call The Giving Of The Torah (Shavout) and many like to go away be it a hotel, camp or something else. So we then get bombarded with “promoters” advertising places non stop. While this is okay, truth in advertising is something that apparently is NOT in their vocabulary.  While there are promoters that get paid to advertise and bring in people, there job is also to be honest about the place they are doing it for. There’s no reason why they need to be aggressive and bullying to attract a crowd. On top of that, they have a reputation to consider and therefore they shouldn’t say things about the place when it is simply not true.Technically, they can say whatever they want because of our First Amendment rights. But to what extent?

    Okay here’s a scenario: You go away with friends on an event and you are all having a good time. Then something happens that can be serious. People come down with a bout of food poisoning with a few ending up in the hospital. Fast forward to a year later where you have the same organizers going back to the same place.

Next Scenario: You know of a place that in it’s heyday, used to be the place to be but over the years it fell into a state of disrepair. Now you go there and see for yourself the shape it’s in. One year later, you see the promoters doing their thing and you know that it’s not true. What do you do? Do you have an obligation to inform others especially if they may have allergies?

Why do I bring this up? Because I did just that and all hell broke loose. Sure I knew it was going to happen but I felt that it had to be done because someone has to stand up for their fellow singles. I’ve been burned and/or trapped and I don’t want that happening to others. In fact, when it does (and it has) people get turned off from ever wanting to attend another event and why should they have to suffer because of that? 

    Promoters have a responsibility because they are  representing the venue and, in some cases,themselves as well. So if you are advertising a place that is: “Beautiful with impeccable service and a sell out crowd with a great singles program and you know that some of this is the opposite what do you do? First of all, because a promoter is representing the venue that venue has a certain image and if  I, as a promoter, misrepresent that to the public there’s a question of morals that come into play. One is: People will come based on what I advertised. Two: They will come because of the price. Now you get there and find out the place is falling apart and not at all what was advertised. So now you have a problem. people will be up in arms for being lied to which means now that venue’s image has now changed because of what the promoters did. Here’s the thing though: While I understand promoters are being paid to do just that, there’s no reason why they need to be aggressive and bullish about it. Eventually people will come because of it but they will find out the truth.. Then what? 

   So when you start to publicly list all the events with the pros and cons and then get attacked for it, that is what I don’t understand. What is wrong with doing that?  People don’t have a right to know if they don’t know which venue to go to? All you do is put the options out to help them decide… 

Same thing with the food poisoning. Sure it happens. That’s life but as an organizer, it’s your responsibility to make sure these things don’t happen again. Well, no, there’s more to it then that. You, the organizer, are in charge of everyone that is at the event which means that if something goes wrong it is your job to own up and admit it and then apologize not to deny it and blame it on someone who wasn’t even there. It’s common sense really. Think about it. If word gets out (and it usually does) what do you think will happen? Well, do you really trust this person again? Do you go on their events in the future? A person’s reputation is very important and in my opinion, it can be ruined in an instant.  Like I said, shit happens but you have to be able to deal with the outcome of it. How far does one go to inform others about said place without crossing a line? It’s funny. No matter what you do or how you do it, there will be those that will hate you for it and those that will support you for it and that’s okay because people who really know you know that you are just trying to be a good person by helping others out. But if it’s one thing I learned it’s that you have to prepared for what comes once you make those posts.

      Speaking of which: It is very unprofessional (and probably unethical) for any business to threaten you with a lawsuit for posting something they don’t agree with especially when it is in public domain. Promoters and venue management cross a line when they start messaging and bullying everyone who posts a comment to your post asking it to be removed. Forget the fact that Freedom of Speech allows people to say whatever they want within reason, but if everyone got annoyed at every bad review out there then where would our entertainment value be? It’s the nature of life. Besides, it makes you look bad and gives you a bad name when you do it.

  I understand that it’s a business and that they try to do the best they can to make people happy and happy customers are returning ones. But they also don’t want to be lied to. If someone is paying $400 for a weekend he/she wants to get their money’s worth. In today’s day and age, the way the economy is, people will be cautious how they spend it and where they spend it. Sometimes giving people different options listing the pros and cons of each can be helpful to them and they will thank you in the end.

And really this is what it really comes down to. There are some honest event planners and promoters out there who care about their reputation and their people and then there are others who are just in it for the money and could care less about what you you think and that is just wrong because eventually the truth will come out and people will expose them for who they really are. But until that happens, someone has to take a stand and do what’s right. People will either appreciate you for it or they will do what they can to make you look bad which is expected. But when people start to follow in your lead and support you, what happens then? Will these “promoters” still trash you and deny it all? As Captain Picard once said: “The line must be drawn here and now” and when that happens, more people will come out in support of you and say no more and when that day comes  hopefully it’ll mean more singles will be able to continue going to events without any problems.

Let me leave you with this powerful yet appropriate quote. 

“To Thine Own Self Be True:—- William Shakespeare.

    

21 Dating Truths We Need To Realize

 1. 95% of the time, they didn’t lose their phone. They didn’t drop in the toilet or the bathtub. It wasn’t shut off. They just didn’t want to text you. If not, why aren’t they Facebooking or tweeting you right now?

2. If you’re looking at someone’s online dating profile and there are multiple people in their photo and you say, “Who is that guy? He’s hot!”, the person will never be that guy. He will always be the person standing next to that guy.

3. No one’s ever “too busy” to hang out with you. Lots of busy people still date. Taylor Swift makes time for a new boyfriend every other day.

4. Everyone is allowed to make the first move. We put so much emphasis on seeming detached and unavailable until the last possible moment, worried we might scare them off by actually seeming interested. What if, heaven forbid, we showed them how much we like them? It’s a revolutionary thought, I know.

5. If they’re talking about their ex all the time, they are not over their ex. Did they just break up with someone? Then they are most likely not ready to date, even if they say they are. If they are actually ready, they are a serial monogamist. Don’t go to there.

6. You don’t have to rush into anything. It’s not the end of the world if he doesn’t call you his girlfriend right away. Neither of you are stricken with the bubonic plague. There’s no bomb in your chest that will go off if he doesn’t say, “I love you” in X amount of months. Slow and steady is just fine.

7. If the person you’re dating is dating you as a project or dating you to change you, they are not interested in you. They’re interested in an idea of you. For instance, an article from a couple years ago advised men on how to “subtly” tell their girlfriend she’s getting fat. If your partner subtly tells you to lose weight, subtly tell them they are single.

8. How quickly they text you back says nothing about how they feel about you, unless it’s legitimately a long time. If it takes a week, that’s a problem. But there’s no difference between 26 and 27 minutes. One less minute doesn’t mean true love.

9. Every guy isn’t going to be “the one” — and maybe no guy will. We need to stop asking every person we date to fulfill this singular role. Why not look for “the one who is good right now?” If that person ends up being “the one who sticks around,” great.

10. Your parents are not responsible for your dating life. We’re all fucked up, but we need to stop letting that be an excuse. If you don’t want to get married, don’t get married for your own reasons — not because of other peoples’. Your parents’ marriage says nothing about how yours will turn out.

11. Sex with another person always means something — whether you are dating casually, non-exclusively or are married. You are inside someone. How is that not a big deal? Even if the two of you are open, sex is an inherently meaningful act. Treating it like its nothing is just an indication of how you’re treating your partner — like it’s nothing. No matter your status, be honest and respectful of the other person’s feelings.

12. Their looks don’t correlate with anything else. Hot guys can be jerks, who clueless dorks who live in a bubble of their good looks. However, they can be well-adjusted people, especially if they don’t know they are hot. This, my friends, is what we call a unicorn. Hold onto that horn and never let go.

13. Did they break up with you because they “don’t want to date?” They just don’t want to date you.

14. Do all of your friends hate them? Does your mom hate them? Do people who don’t even know you hate them? Behold the red flag.

15. You’re not going to trick someone into liking you or wear them down. Pining for someone or helplessly waiting around for your mate to get interested in you never got anyone the girl. If you’ve been put in the friendzone, you need to recognize that and move on. It sucks, but the sooner you deal with the suckage, the sooner you can start getting jiggy with someone else. Even DJ Jazzy Jeff found a life after Will Smith.

16. Being nice doesn’t get you anything. There’s this weird idea that if we just put our head down and be “the good guy,” we get rewarded with Shooky-Shooky Time. However, you’re never entitled to anything. The only thing the object of your affection owes you is honesty. If you think that acting a certain way means they have to have sex with you, you’re honestly an asshole.

17. The other sex isn’t as complicated as you think. Almost all problems in this area stem from our lack of communication, our inability to just be honest or let the other person know when we feel like we’re not on the same page. People are pretty simple. You’d find out if you just asked.

18. Potential mates don’t care about your Gucci bag. Designer brands might give you personal confidence, but if we’re talking guys, trust me: they don’t care. They just want you to feel sexy and beautiful, whatever you are wearing. I personally have a thing for girls in boy shorts. I can’t help it. It’s sexy.

19. They won’t fix what your ex did to you. Don’t ask them to. You will bring your emotional baggage into the relationship, but they should not be the one unpacking all of it.

20. Also, your exes weren’t evil, and everything wasn’t their fault. They were good people (for the most part) who just weren’t right for you, just like you weren’t right for them. Taking responsibility for your share of the past will help you take responsibility for the future.

21. You don’t control your dating life. The saying goes that all women have the love life they want. I’m sorry, but that’s bullshit. I know a lot of people who are fucking miserable, and they didn’t ask for that. They just don’t know how to ask for more. We’re lost, and we don’t know what to do with ourselves. Do we just become a spinster? Do we go the mail-order bride route and just sell ourselves into a life of quiet matrimonial slavery?

No, you just get comfortable with the fact that you can’t control everything. You don’t have a crystal ball that tells you if he’s the one — or even if he’ll call you tomorrow. (You can always call him!) The only thing you can do find out for yourself, trusting in your ability to believe this one will be different. That’s the beauty and terror of dating: there’s no map and few certainties. You have to learn to go your own way. Embrace the journey

The Singles Crises

About a week ago, there was a conversation on Facebook about singles events and how effective they really are. It really depends on who you ask as you will get many different answers. Over the years, I have been on many. Some good. Some bad and some in between. While I won’t go into many details, I will explain how I feel about these things

Going in With Expectations

One problem facing this issue is that people go into these things with expectations and when they aren’t met they deem it a failure and what many don’t realize is that you can’t go into an event like this with any expectations. You need to go with the flow and see what happens. Why go in with expectations anyway? Why not just go and have a nice time, meet new people and have a nice “vacation”? 

WHO’S IN CHARGE?

    Very important to know for a few reasons:

1) Do they have any experience?

2) What is their reputation like?

3) Do they care about their singles?

Let’s address these three:

First, do they have any experience running weekends, events or anything else? In my opinion, there’s having experience and having “experience”. If you go to an event or a weekend of any type, you can sometimes tell if the person/s running it knows what they are doing or not. Presentation is the main factor.

Next you wanna know what their reputation is like? VERY IMPORTANT. Why would I, or anyone else for that matter, want to go to an event that is run by someone who can’t be trusted, dishonest, unethical or even take responsibility for their actions? I have actually seen this happen and to this day, I don’t understand why people continue going on this person’s events when they have no responsibility whatsoever not to mention so unorganized?

Do they care about the people that are on their events? I hope so because when you are paying a lot of money to go on these things you want to know that it is worth it. If I’m told that  “Mickey Mouse” was going to show and I get “Bugs Bunny” instead, I wouldn’t be happy. Now there are organizers who will say that it’s better then nothing but see that’s a problem. If you advertise it and you substitute for something else, that’s misleading. I came knowing that A was going to be there but now B is there instead and I have no interest in seeing B.

But the other thing is this: Is the organizer making sure that I am having a good time? If you are shy or have problems meeting new people, will they help you? Will they be around when needed? 

Sadly, there are some organizers that are in it just for the money. So much so that they will make events and getaways that are overpriced without thinking about whether or not a person can afford it. The idea is to start low and work your way up. Why would someone go to an event for $450 and not so much to offer  when they can go to a similar one for $199 and get better things out of it?

My main question is this though: Why are there people in various communities who don’t endorse these or if they do, do so privately? What are they against? Matchmakers aren’t always the answer because not everyone is comfortable using them and not all of them are trustworthy or reliable. In my opinion, it is better to go away with your peers for 4 days and get to know each other (which, believe it or not, you can do) then go back and forth. These Rabbis don’t understand that the times have changed. That there’s a new generation of singles doing things their way. Instead of understanding the issue and wanting to talk about it, the Rabbis blame the internet… Why though? Don;t they see that dating sites are useful? That many engagements/marriages came from them?

What we should do is come together as a whole and openly discuss the issue and try to figure out how to resolve it. What can we do to fix it? Why are people scared or afraid to talk about it? Why are people close minded about it? People should look at the big picture?

These events work. I’ve seen. Others have as well. They don’t always do but I’m convinced that it’s based on the individual. Sometimes the crowd plays a role in it but if you go in with expectations you are more then likely to go away with a negative feeling.

In the end, if we we could have a dialogue with our Rabbis and if we can gather focus groups on the issues and how to fix them, then maybe there wouldn’t be such a crises.  Granted it will never be 100% resolved but we have to start somewhere.

   

NEW YORK CITY’S LARGEST CHANUKAH PARTY FOR JEWISH SINGLES TO TAKE PLACE DECEMBER 9, 2012

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

NEW YORK (November 20, 2012) – Hundreds of Jewish singles from New York, New Jersey and Connecticut will come together on Sunday, December 9, 2012 for the Tri-State area’s largest Chanukah party! This mega-party will take place at “Columbus 72” 246 Columbus Ave (at 72nd Street) in Manhattan from 6:30pm-1:00am. There will be a food and music, including two DJ’s and ‘The Night Brigade’ band who will be performing live all night long!

 

Once again, this party has been organized by the NYTW (Not Your Typical Weekend Corp.) a celebrated New York based Jewish singles organization which strives to present spectacular and stylish events, all with a low-cost entrance fee. NYTW is the largest young Jewish professional group in the tri-state with over 2,000 members! This year, ALL proceeds will go to directly benefit victims of Hurricane Sandy.

 

This magnificent evening will kick off with a Chanukah candle lighting at 7:00pm. There will be a beautiful dinner buffet provided by Olympic Pita Restaurant who will be offering up hot glatt kosher items including, Moroccan cigars, chicken rolls, falafel balls, kibbeh, laffa and an assortment of traditional salads. There will be fresh sushi and of course potato latkes & sufganiot (jelly donuts) to celebrate the holiday! There will be a cash bar with true drink specials all night long.

 

Dress as you like but dress to impress; remember ladies, it’s the night of miracles – dress to meet your man! And guys, don’t forget you have only one chance to make that first impression – look sharp.

 

Prices start as low as $18 per person with food and entertainment. For more information or to register visit: NYTWevents.com. Register online TODAY as prices will increase as the date approaches.

 

This is an event for those 21-42 years of age (ID’s required). We welcome all Jews from traditional to orthodox and everything in-between.  This is an event for all Jews regardless of their religious affiliation. While this event is for singles, it is not a stereotypical ‘singles’ event–if you’re not married – you’re single! This is a classy party, a Jewish holiday party, one to remember!

Contact: Yaakov (Jeff) Grunstein (917-414-5603)

For More Information: Please check out: NYTWEVENTS.com

My Birthday Party

 It’s amazing how things change from one year to the next. Sometimes you don’t even realize it. Sometimes it happens right in front of you. Sometimes we refuse to see the changes and sometimes you are just overwhelmed or surprised by them which is what happened to me. This past weekend (August 18, 2012) I threw a birthday party for myself and invited many people. Last year I did the same but it was a complete fiasco. Only 3 people showed up. To this day I don’t know why no one showed but I was hurt by it. This year I decided to try again but do a complete 180 and do something out of the ordinary. Again, I wasn’t sure if anyone would show but I was willing to risk it and I’m glad I did because I really had no idea who was going to show up but lo and behold not only did people show up they came in spurts which really put a smile on my face. Over 30 people showed up and not once did I see anyone bored or not having fun… 

   Truth be told, I was a bit overwhelmed because I really wasn’t expecting a “full house”. I mean people said they were coming but ya know things happen at the last minute. It was hard for me to enjoy my own shindig because I was the host and as such I have to make sure my guests are enjoying themselves and try to say hello to everyone while mingling at the same time. Anyway, I am not sure what happened in a year’s time.. Did I meet new people? Make new friends? Avoid the competing parties? Word of mouth? Who knows? Who cares? I just didn’t realize how popular I really am.  A friend of  mine told me a few weeks ago that “you have more friends then you realize“.  At the time, I had no idea what he meant or why he said it but he was right. I had people I didn’t know coming, people I hardly see coming and  people I know came as well.  I’ve been told that people don’t care where you make a party because they come for you and while this may be true, it’s also important to pick a good place so there’s enough room for dancing and socializing. Location is also important. 

It’s funny though. Everywhere I go I’m like a celebrity. People know me or know of me. I’m still trying to figure out if this is a good thing or a bad thing. When did I become Mr. Popular? What did I do to deserve this? I know it can’t be because of Facebook at least I hope not. But it wasn’t always like this. I used to be a nobody.. I used to not get out a lot cause I didn’t know so many people and when I did go out it was never how it is today.. So when I say I was overwhelmed it’s not an exaggeration.  

You know you’ve succeeded when everyone says that they had a great time and tells you how great  the party was. It all makes it worthwhile. I was really touched by everyone who showed up. Even the ones that came from far and made the extra effort. I was amazed. I didn’t expect the cake and I didn’t expect that many people. Honestly, I didn’t really know what to expect. I didn’t even know how it would turn out. 

So when I said that a lot has changed in the last year… I still don’t know how or why but it has and for the better. I always think I’m not that popular or that no one likes me or they are just having me just to be nice. If I am a “Ladies Man” as I’m called by some , why am I not popular with them? I must be doing something right someplace and something wrong in the other place… Life is funny that way I suppose. But no sense on reflecting on the past because we can’t change it. We can just focus on the now and learn from the  past.

    Anyway, for any of my friends that are reading this I want to say a thank you for coming out. You made my night.  All of you. I wish I could personally thank each and everyone of you but I can’t. Just know that I was touched and it meant everything to me and I won’t soon forget it.