London Trip: Thoughts and Observations

     I recently came back from a vacation across the pond and while the weather was “on and off” that didn’t stop me from traveling or sightseeing. England is a really big place (well, depends on who you ask) so it is really impossible to see everything in such a short time (A week) which is why you research and choose what you feel is of importance to you on this go around.Which I did and I’m happy to say more or less that my goal was reached and accomplished (minus the 2 things recommended by a friend that I didn’t know about).

 So, based on everything I did, let me tell you about what I thought about the stuff I did.

HOUSES OF PARLIAMENT

   This is the heart of London where everything happens. Going through I tried to compare it with our version of the Senate and House (not sure if it’s an accurate description though) and here, it’s defined as the House of Lords and the House of Commons. You can tell that the building is steeped in History by it’s design. Not only that, but there’s one room where all the Queens and Kings hang (including the current )and I stopped and “visualised” what it was like back then. All the sculptures of people who are long, long gone that passed through even the door that Charles 1 walked through . There’s a reason why you need to knock now as apparently, Charles 1 stormed through this door demanding the head of 5 people he said commited treason (If you look closely, the door is still damaged and ironically, if you look above the door, the wall is damaged from the bombs of WWII. Churchill aid to leave as is as a reminder).

You actually enter from a place called WESTMINSTER HALL which was built in the 1500’s and is very significant because it’s also called THE GREAT HALL  because it’s where a few people lied in state here such as Churchill. Also, it’s where leaders come to speak (Mandela, Obama). Unfortunately, I wasn’t allowed to take pictures except for in this room.

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Stain Glass window

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Over the years, this has been renovated but it’s the original design

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WESTMINSTER ABBEY

  This is older then Parliament by about 500 years (give or take) and it’s a church, cathedral, cemetery, memorial.. Basically an all in one and I’m not exaggerating and here’s why.

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      Basically, how this works is that you go through it (It’s one big area) and as you go off with Jeremy Irons (He’s your guide) you really have to take a look at the gothic design and the detail that went in to it.It’s massive, beautiful and lots of thoughts went into it. You walk past the final resting places of ome of the early monarchy such as Isaac Newton, King Henry (the first one who also was one of the original designers), his wife, Edward (I forgot which one) Mary Queen of Scots and even some modern day people who are paried beneath the floor (You can’t see them but if you stand on their name plaque, it’s the spot where they are “resting”) even those not buried here (like Willie Shakespeare) still have a memorial to them including Handel who was German.

    I should also mention that on display is the coronation chair that was used for Queen Elizabeth and of past Q and K’s (It is still being used). Here is also where Princess Di and Charles , Willie and Katie got married.

  It’s also open to anyone who finds themselves wanting to pray during services. I do however recommend you going to check this out no matter your religion.

CRUISING DOWN THE THAMES

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Tower of London View From Other Side Of Thames

TOWER OF LONDON

I didn’t know about this and was recommended by a friend but boy is this a chilly, eerie place. This place has 6 live Ravens living here for it is said that should they leave, the Tower will fall. No idea if it’s true but as Lenin once said

“Tell a lie long enough and it becomes truth”

Anyway, this was a massive Tower/Fortress  that was protected from all sides

 It also said that nearby is where Anne Boleyn was executed. There is a monument here to attest to that fact.

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A monument that says this is the site where Anne Boleyn was executed by Henry the 8th

Pretty much I learned a little bit here . One thing that is interesting here is that the staff live on the premises with family and that they are part of the royal guard that works for the Queen. The evidence is there because on the site also houses the Crown Jewels. Basically the royal crowns, scepters and everything among them.

    It truly is a magnificent place  and I can go on and on but I won’t so let’s go on shall we?

ROYAL ALBERT HALL

    This was actually not in my plans however I was close to where I needed to be so I figured it’s a really famous and well know place so I figured why not? Anyone who’s anyone has performed here (currently home to Cirque Du Soleil). Because I went on a guided tour, I was able to go where it’s usually off limits such as the Queen’s waiting room and her box (technically the Royal Box). Oh, and apparently there’s a royal bathroom which we couldn’t see but can’t imagine how it would be any different.

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The View From The Royals Box

I did a walking tour which was fascinating in and of itself and discovered that Big Ben is named after a guy named Ben who was a pretty big fella (true story). Also, for some reason, only UK residents can go inside it. Not sure why but this is an odd thing really. Oh, but the clock still works. It chimes on the hour.

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The Famous Pic/Movie Scene

Well, I spent a week here and pretty much accomplished what I set out to do and the other things were just bonuses. I even got to do 4 things in one day . The problem is that there’s lots to see not just in London so you’d have to plan another trip just to see it. For example:

  • Shakespeare’s House: This is way, way out there. It could be done but you’d have to go early in the morning. There are different  opinions on whether or not he’s buried here as well.
  • Windsor Castle: This is the main dish if you will. The place that holds the final resting place for KIng George VI(Lizzie’s Pop), his wife, daughter (I think)… Her name is Margret).. It’s also the place of many other royals . Interestingly enough, Princess Di isn’t buried here. She unfortunately is off limits to the public. The closest you can get to her is via her monument in Hyde Park.  Also of note: It’s still used today . Actually it’s one of the Queen’s residence . This is a nice place to visit if you have the time but it’s between 3 and 4 hours to get there so plan accordingly.
  • Stonehenge: This mysterious monument tells a story. There are conflicts regarding the Stonehenge. How it got there, who built it, what it represents… But it is considered by some as one of the seven wonders of the world. And, not far from here is the famous
  • Bath Houses. Not Turkish. Not English but Roman. Yep. And it is still in use today. In fact, for a fee, one can go swimming in these waters. Untouched, these are the actual houses which would make them thousands of years old (I’m guessing here).

Believe it or not, England is a HUGE place with so much to see and do. It is unfortunate that you can’t see EVERYTHING in one trip (Unless you stay here for a month or two) but a lot of this is for anyone who is a history buff and/or just to see famous “movie locations”. (You won’t find the GoT set anywhere here).

England is older then America. Way, way, way old. And yet, they were barbaric for most of their existence and I think most ,if not all, of England still suffers from that today. It is interesting to not however that the monarchy meant something all those years ago. Today, it is just a name in title only. A figurehead. Yet, the Queen still has a say in some Government matters and there’s still a hierarchy but only because it’s been that way from generation to generation (kinda tradition at this point) but England isn’t the same as it used to be? No. Can it or will it revert to it’s past?  No and even if it wanted to it couldn’t because of the Magna Carta (which I happily got to see ).

And that’s why the history is so important not just for England but for us all because at one point in time we were all under British rule.It wasn’t just America, (New York was named by the English by the way as it was supposed to be a gift for the Duke of York), but other countries like S. Africa, Israel, Canada (which is still under the Monarchy it seems). And it is important to remember why we wanted to be free of their rule and why we wanted our independance.

England today by definition is a Catholic country (I think) but it was because of the separation of Church and State which was a very important time in England’s history. It is this point that made it what it is today and without it, who knows what would have happened. That being said, I like to think that England’s history is our history because it is who we are. It is who we became for without them, who knows if we would have ever become The United States of America? And it is for this reason and this reason alone that we must reflect on the history and the politics of English rule and society .

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Religious Fanatics of Cults and Propaganda (Or: How Judasim is being destroyed)

On Sunday March 9, a massive protest was held in the middle of Wall Street to protest the IDF (Army) draft taking place 5,000 miles away. Now, you might ask: Why is something that’s happening in another country that doesn’t affect us being protested here? I don’t know but it’s a waste of taxpayers money and a waste of time. Now, I myself am a Jew and I will say that I didn’t go nor was I endorsing this in any way, shape or form. In fact, this isn’t the first time the Ultra-Orthodox pulled this stunt. What you have to understand is this: When things don’t go their way they throw fits of tantrums. They think that because of who they  are they are above the law.

Now, as I said I am a Jew. A religious one and by no means am I perfect but I do know the difference between right and wrong. I went to college. I was raised to have an open mind and be mindful of others. I grew up where it is okay to speak up and have open discussions of important matters no matter the outcome and this my friends is where the problem lies among  my people..

The Ultra-Orthodox grew up in a very closed society. They know little to nothing of the secular world. They don’t go to college (they are encouraged not to go) and 90% do not work. In fact, all they do is sit in a Yeshiva learning all day and night. In Israel, they are supported by the Government however, that’s about to change as they have warned the Yeshiva students that if  they do not join the Army then they will cut off all support to their yeshivas. Obviously this didn’t sit well with the Haradiem who started going crazy on them. But here is a question I propose to you: One of the commandments that G-D gave was: “Thou Shall Not Steal” so if this is true, why are the Haradiem continuously stealing from the Government? By this I mean they keep mooching off of them. So I have to wonder why this is okay but when the Government asks for something in return they need to go all crazy on them saying that the Government is interfering with their way of life? Seriously? This is our way of life? I must be in a different religion.

People are really stupid at times. How ignorant are these leaders of ours that they make suggestions and ideas without knowing a damn thing. Don’t they know that without the IDF there would be no Yeshivas?  Without the IDF we’d all be dead. Without the IDF we’d have no State to call our own. Do they also not know that by joining the army you are saving lives?

So the Government came up with a compromise: Serve the army or go to school and study secular courses. Of course this too was rejected. So next came: Serve the army or go to jail (Do Not Pass Go. Do Not Collect $200). The response: “We will gladly go to jail and proudly.”.  Okay, fair enough. That just proves your stupidity.

This is the same group of people that throw rocks at people on the Sabbath and teach their kids that it is okay to do so. This is also the same group of people who held a rally in protest of the internet (which ironically was streamed on the internet). This is also the same group who believes it is okay to molest children, distribute child pornography and then cover it up. This is also the same group of people who refuse to give their wives a GET (Jewish Divorce). This is the same group who decided that women have no rights. I can go one and on but you get the gist of what I am saying.

So the Ultra-Orthodox single handily make us look bad. Because of them, people hate us. Many people have left the religion because of the many restrictions imposed on us and sadly, many people believe all this stuff and fall prey to it. Especially the people who go through the conversions to be a religious Jew.

How come they blame everything on the internet when there’s much bigger problems facing our communities? Child Molestation? Blame the Internet. Sexual Abuse? Blame The Internet. The marriage Crisis? Yup, the internet again. So basically, the internet is why our religion is so messed up. Got it.  Like I said, these so called leaders of ours have no freakin clue. They look only at the negatives. The internet can be used for good as well. In fact, they went far enough to tell people to filter everything related to the internet. Phones, computers, tablets. As the title above says this all nothing but Propaganda brainwashing bullshit. They even have Kosher phones that does nothing but make calls. I believe this is what a “dummy” phone has been doing for years.

Now, I know people will read this and call me names like “Jew Hater“, “Anti Jewish”, “Nazi Lover” and I am okay with that and you know why? Because the truth hurts and people can’t handle it which in itself is another problem. No one wants to talk about it for some reason. What are people afraid of? Open dialogue is good. Be open and honest and think for yourself. Call me names if you must but what will that accomplish? People who defend Rapists, molesters or others are no better then they are. People don’t come forward because they are afraid of the consequences or as the “rabbis” say: It’ll hurt your children’s chances for marriage.  Come on this is bull and you know it…

In Williamsburgh, Brooklyn, the Ultra Orthodox community there think that they are Judge, Jury and Executioner of all who live or pass by there.  Really? So this means you have a right to put up signs all over telling women how to dress(even if they aren’t Jewish) or where to walk and when asked to take it down you answer if you don’t like it leave? When Nechmeia Weberman went to trial (he was convicted) the community kept on defending him and even went far by throwing him a party (Disgusting) and saying how a girl who was little at the time is making it up to be famous. Then they send in hooligans to try to obstruct the case (they were found guilty). One person even went far by throwing bleach all over someone’s face (Also found guilty).

Point:  This is NOT how we as  Jewish people are supposed to act. We are supposed to set an example for others. This is NOT how we should be raising our children. Sometimes, I am ashamed to be a Jew. We are our own worst enemy. So much hatred among our people that it’s no wonder no one likes us.

Once I publish this, there’s no going back. I know that I will get lots of flack for this. In fact, people will perceive this OP-ED as nothing but “Lies” and “Hatred” among other things. So be it. But I cannot remain silent when these things keep happening. I’m embarrassed and ashamed but I know that there are those out there who are thinking the same things as I am but can’t or won’t speak about it for whatever reason. But I can be their voice. Their crusader because I believe that when one voice speaks out repeatedly, people take notice and listen and while it may take time, I know with all my heart that there are people out there who feel your pain and respect and look up to you for speaking your mind.

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IDF uniform colors (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

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Good Bye: Part Two

So yesterday I wrote one of the most personal and emotional pieces I have ever written and the reaction was to say overwhelming but in a good way. Many didn’t know how good of a writer I really was. Though, at the same time, it brought people to tears which was not my intention but I guess when you write from the heart it brings out emotions you never knew you had. It was hard for me to write as well. I think at one point it started to hit me as well but I had to finish writing it and there was so much more that had to be said which is why I am writing this part two or as I like to think of it an addendum.

Last time around, I was asking myself questions that may never have answers but aside from that, it turns out that my sister, who for years, wanted to make the move began having doubts as it got closer to the “big day” which is normal. But after writing my previous post, I started to wonder if she really was doing this for her or for the children. Like me, she lived in Israel but she stayed an extra year because she loved it so much which makes me wonder why she never stayed there for good. It’s not for everyone true but I sensed her love was there which showed from an early  age. Honestly, her husband is Israeli so it would have been easier if they just moved there after they married (of course they both had jobs at the time.. Somewhat) but I do believe that it may have been better off if her kids were born there.

I say this because her son was scared of moving there and I felt bad for him. He’s 7 and he kept saying “Mommy I don’t want to go because the Arabs will hurt me”. Going to Israel is a new world for him. How do you explain to him the situation? How do you explain why Mommy and Daddy are moving away? How would a 7 year old react to a place where soldiers are always walking around with guns?  Then my Niece who is 4. How will she react? How will she handle it? In a way, I feel sorry for them.. No, maybe that’s not the right word… I feel bad for them.. It’s hard when you are at that age and you have to leave the friends you have to go to a place you’ve never been to with a language you don’t know. Finally, the newborn niece that’s only a few weeks old. This one hits me the most because I will never see her grow. I will never get to know her. She will never know who I am and that hurts me the most. My other question is: Will the other 2 forget me? I won’t be around to see them grow up. No more birthdays. I won’t even be there for his Bar Mitzva or her Bat Mitzvah (unless by some miracle I happen to be there). I have to be man enough here to admit that I’m not sure I can deal with this or even if I know how or if I even want to. My sister is scared. She regrets it but sadly, they need to stay for 3 years before returning or the money they got will be forfeited.

Because I have lived there, I am able to write about all this. I can also say that I know what she’s going through which I guess makes me understand certain things better. Although my going was more forced and not a choice. I ask myself what would have been if I had the choice instead? Would I have gone? I don’t think I can answer that because it no longer matters.  What does matter though is that she’s been there before so she knows what to expect although since we’ve both been there things changed.  Though, I think it’s gotten worse.

There’s nothing more for me to say. I think I’ve said all I can about this so I will end with this. I hope her decision turns out to be the right one. I hope I am wrong. I hope my Nieces and Nephew  grow up being happy instead of being miserable and I hope that one day I will be able to be there for their wedding. For now I wish you the best of luck and may G-D watch over you all. Be safe. I love and miss you all.

Goodbye

 It’s always hard to say goodbye. Sometimes the best way of saying goodbye is to not say it at all. Case in point: My sister and her family decided that they wanted to make the move to Israel something she’s wanted to do for years but I never thought she’d actually do. Now, years later, with 3 kids (1 newborn), a dog, cat and a husband, she’s currently (at time of this writing) flying to her new home.  I may not know with certainty what’s going through her mind but I can relate to a certain extent.

A few years ago, I was in Israel. Lived there for almost 2 years. It wasn’t my first time there though. The first time I went it was a 10 day journey. There’s a big difference between going for 10 days and 2 years. It’s kinda surreal actually not to mention scary.  Here I was 5,000 miles away from home. Alone and unsure what to do. Sure I’ve gone away before but this was different not to mention that it was a whole different world.  At the time, I spoke little to no Hebrew so I wondered how I was going to communicate? I also wasn’t used to the economy and how it works which I guess is important if I’m to be living there. They try to take advantage of tourists when it comes to this and honestly, I’d look silly if every time I had to figure out what the amount is in American currency.  

    So going to Israel for that year and a half wasn’t really my idea. In fact, it caught me off guard when I was told I was going. I have nothing against going but it was something I wasn’t really prepared for. I mean how does one prepare? So many questions suddenly arose. What if I couldn’t handle it? What if I got homesick? So many “what ifs” arose that I possibly couldn’t answer them all.

   My sister made the choice long before she was married. It was something that I know she really wanted but once she started a family, it became harder and harder for her dream to become a reality. But only a few months ago her and her husband officially made the decision that would seal their fate. In a way it’s good that they did it now instead of later while the kids are still young. Ironically though, my sister, only a few days ago, realized that it had started to sink in and it seemed like she had doubts. But I guess that is expected.

     Every so often, I’m asked if I want to move to Israel on a permanent basis. The answer I give is: “If the right girl comes along and wants to” but the truth is I don’t know if I ever can. It scares the hell out of me. I have family that lives there but you essentially take you’re entire life and move it and start a new (which is what marriage is).  Honestly though I think that my living there for over a year taught me a few things. One thing was that it’s harder there then it is here in America.  The way of life is harder there then here. I’ve thought about this time and time again and I’m not so sure it’s for me. It’s not for everyone. In fact, I commend anyone that DOES do it as it’s not an easy decision to make and that includes my sister. I’m not sure but I think I have more respect for her now then I ever did. Should I be jealous?

      Yesterday, I had a phone conversation with my mom who was very emotional about the whole thing which I guess is normal. She knew this day was coming and we all knew that she would have a tough time dealing with it and she is and probably will be for quite some time.She was upset at me that I wasn’t showing any emotion about it. Women get more emotional about these things then men I guess but I’m not a parent so maybe I can’t feel it the same way she does, Maybe I’m dealing with it in my own way. ironically, as I write this I do feel somewhat emotional.   In truth, my sister and I never really had the best relationship and we hardly ever spoke  but now… I’m sad. I think I will miss her,

  I think I am more sad that I’ll never see my nieces and nephews grow up especially the newborn who will never know me (maybe). I wonder now if they will forget me. Will I ever see them again? What of the newborn? She will essentially be growing up there not knowing about us back home.. I’ll never see her grow up. I’ll never get the pleasure of being an Uncle to her. This makes me sad. It makes me want to cry. But I know I have to be strong. Being sad is one thing but crying over this won’t really help bring them back. 

    They did what they felt they had to do and in their minds it’s the right time for them to start a new chapter in their lives. The question I ask is this: Are they making a big mistake? Will they end up regretting it? Most important: Will the kids be happy? Like I said, better to do it when they are young because it might be even harder the longer they wait. In my heart I know they had to do this but deep down I worry and I wonder if I should. I also feel like a part of me died.

 One last thing: There’s a part of me that wonders if they are running away from something or someone.. For some reason, it bothers me that… I don’t know I get the feeling that they are abandoning us. Like we’re no good for them anymore, I know it’s silly to think that but I dunno. I think I blame myself.. I know I shouldn’t but there’s something bothering me about this whole thing and I can’t figure out what it is. Sure there’s Skype and Facebook and other forms of communication but it’s not the same. Is it better then nothing? Yes.

  All I can do now is hope they are safe and say that they are “home” and hope that one day we will all be reunited in some form or another. Now I can only pray to G-D to watch over them  and say that I miss and love them.

 

 

    

A Lesson Learned

 One day about a month ago, I was having a really bad day where things were going from bad to worse. At the same time I was talking to a friend on Facebook who was also having issues that day and well I basically took it out on her when all I was trying to do was help. A few days later, another friend blocked me because he didn’t agree with something I liked. A few days after that, I went on a “warpath” regarding events for singles that were taking place weeks later (see my previous posts). It was then that I received a text message from another friend telling me that he can no longer be my friend because and I quote” You are a mean bitter person who does nothing but hurt others and I can’t associate with people like that in my life right now so lose my number.”   I never did but I guess I might have had it coming.

Over the weekend, the unexpected happened and it happened quickly within a 24 hour period. I was at an event when the person above called me out of the blue. We spoke for a half hour. The friend that blocked me added me as a friend again and in fact, I saw him yesterday as if nothing happened and we were ourselves again. Then, while at work, I got a text from the very person I was having a bad day with that caused me to take it all out on her. She called me and we spoke for an hour. Suffice it to say, everything seems to be back to normal. But man was I caught off guard by the unfolding of this.

Looking back on it now I had it coming and honestly, I probably deserved it. I admit my actions may have been a bit out of control that caused people to turn away and that’s fine because honestly I might have done the same thing in that situation but I am glad that it’s all water on the bridge and that things are back to normal because in all honesty, they are all really good friends.

The weird thing about this is that I’m nothing but nice to these people and in fact, they know this to be true. She (let’s call her Jenny) also had time to reflect and admitted to me that she missed me and that it was really stupid(silly) to not be friends with me as I’m a gentleman and nothing but kind and caring to her.

I guess G-D’s  been good to me. Is it the “pay it forward” ideal? Is it something else? Doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that I’ve reflected on things in this whole month and realized that if people can forgive and forget then maybe I can do.  Why? Because in the end, people see you for who you are and it’s the actions that speak louder then words. People have a reputation and that goes a long way. I’m trying hard not to tarnish mine and if people are seeing me in a bad light for my actions then it’s not worth trying to be someone I’m not. It’s not who I am nor who I want to be and sadly, it took 3 friends to make me realize this but I thank them because having them “disappear” for awhile was good therapy for me because sometimes it takes people who care about you and vice versa to make you see what’s important.

The Truth? You Can’t Handle The Truth.

The truth can sometimes hurt. It can also reveal a person’s true colors. Sometimes not on purpose but it’s something that sometimes needs to be done. It’s also something I’ve been trying to do with mixed results. Unfortunately, it’s probably doing more harm then good… For me anyway and here’s why.  In my last few posts I wrote about lawsuits, dishonesty and social events. (Yeah makes for great soap opera episodes).  Now I want to elaborate and make it an “All in One” extravaganza.

I did some thinking and it occurred to me that most people refuse to hear the truth even if they know that you are right. I don’t know why but this is what I have realized. Sure there can be reasons as to why but isn’t telling the truth the right thing to do? There are certain instances where covering up the truth is okay and in fact even acceptable but never ever use it as a weapon. The saying: “The truth shall set you free” may work but it depends on how you use it and when.

We have many singles events that have been happening in the last few weeks. Some even competing with each other on the same weekends. There are very honest promoters and organizers out there that will be straight up about the event while others will use deceptive means to get people to come.  Sadly, those deceptive tactics are the ones that work. I don’t understand why people feel the need to lie about a weekend to entice people to come. It turns people off.  I have been to a few of these. Some good. Some not.

About a year ago, I was “coerced” into going to one. with promises and reassurances made. As I expected, nothing promised was given. Just the opposite. Not surprised. Not only was I a fool but out of place as well. Keep in mind that this was a week after Sandy so the crowd turnout was poor.  Lucky for me, someone I knew was there so I did what I felt was the right thing to do which was to confront the person in charge and let them know how I felt.

Fast forward to the aftermath: While I did mail the check, they claimed they never got it which I am very happy about. He/She insisted I write another one. Of course I wanted to know why I should pay for a service I never got.. Oh I did get threatened with small claims court (which was dropped because it couldn’t be proven that I was there). This went on for months and months when I found out that someone else that I knew had the same stunt pulled as well. And this isn’t the first time nor was it the last because you see every time there’s a singles weekend happening, this same person goes to nasty lengths to get people to come which I don’t understand because eventually people who show up will see for themselves and this is where the problem lies.

I try to be a good person and friend and somehow it seems to bite me in the ass. I know many people. I know people who run events. The honest ones are successful and will have big turnouts. The other ones won’t but will claim they are “sold out” even though it may not be true. The honest ones will limit the age group and be serious about it while the other will say one thing and mean something else . This what turns people off  from ever going to future events (Will cover in a future post). People spend a lot of money to go away to these things and end up getting burned because of  promoters who are just in it for the money and don’t care about the singles. (Sadly, there are a lot of these)

Because I’ve been one of them, I made it my mission to stand up to these “bullies” to protect my friends and other singles. Why? For the simple reason that I, and many others, are fed up with what goes on. Back in the day, promoters were honest and were willing to answer any concerns you might have. Here’s something you should know though: It seems that by trying to do the right thing you get punished for it and this is where the title of this post comes in.

As I said earlier, the truth hurts which is why no one wants to hear it. Sure you can deny all you want about what someone is saying and that’s fine but don’t make the person trying to help others have to suffer. The other factor is that you will have supporters and detractors. You will have people pressuring you to take posts down and others who will thank you in private. Then you have others who will use scare tactics to bully you and then you have others who will call you names. Say that your a liar and will make it a mission to let others know you are spreading lies to “destroy” them.

The thing is, people who run events have a reputation and image to maintain and when you cross that line that should never be crossed, that image begins to get questioned. In fact, when people do see for themselves that you (meaning the person trying to do the right thing) were in fact telling the truth all along they end up thanking you and regret not listening to you.

But then again, when your reputation isn’t good to begin with and there is history among others you need to ask yourself the following: Why am I going to this one when their are better ones out there? Why are these people still making events? Why is this place still open? Why is a crusader being punished for being open and honest? One person can make a difference. It can take months, years to do so but eventually when enough people go to these events and see that you were honest they will respect you for your honesty.

As I say on my Facebook, “My wall my posts. Don’t like it block me”. They do and I’m okay with that because this is is also a way to find out who your real friends really are. Those are the ones who stand by you at all times no matter what. If they feel that by these posts you are hurting them then so be it. I am not sorry for doing what I am doing. I’m proud of it. I won’t be bullied nor will I cave to the pressure. People don’t want the truth because they know you are right but for whatever reason won’t admit it. No, wait, I take that back. There could be many reasons and I won’t get into them instead, I will give you a clip from one of my favorite scenes from the movie A Few Good Men, which  sums it up best why people don’t want to hear the truth.


 

 

 

Trying To Cover Up The Truth By Blaming Others.

In my last post I had written about how the manager of the venue was threatening me with a lawsuit and saying I needed to seek help. Well, not long after that post I did indeed get handed a lawsuit with I believe is frivolous and insane and here’s why:

First off, he filed using my nickname which isn’t even recognized in the state of NY. He also made me the defendant’s place of business (the place suing me). He then decided to sue me in the amount of 1.5 million with interest. $1 million in punitive damages and another $ 4,400 in compensatory damages. He then added on a page demanding to know why he shouldn’t get a restraining order against me. So my question is this: What the hell did I do? Since when is it a crime to post links on the internet to your Facebook wall? What damages, if any, have I caused?

If he gets wind of this blog is he gonna sue me for taking it public? The manager needs a scapegoat so he’s using me to look like the hero in all of this. Why? Because he’s desperate. He knows no one is coming to the “hotel” and knows what I did will maybe keep people away but when a place is public knowledge there really is nothing you can do. He claims he’s suing me because of links I posted from Trip Adviser(which apparently he claims he’s suing as well) which has the reviews to his venue.

Basically what it comes down to is this: Anything you want to know about the place is public knowledge. There’s nothing he can deny (well, he can try). In fact, I did some looking into and it seems that they have 2 strikes with the BBB (Better Business Bureau) regarding their sales and advertising which isn’t really surprising (see my earlier post) plus according to the State Health Dept, they boarded up several sections condemning it till they get the proper repairs .  Of course, the manager doesn’t give a shit so it’ll remain closed.

The second thing is about what I said about the molester (see my last post). I retracted, publicly apologized and then privately emailed him and did the same. Therefore, he feels that by slandering him, I’ve hurt his feelings and his business. I say not true because his business reputation has been ruined for years. He just needed a scapegoat and he found one.

I’ve committed no crime. For that matter, he can’t sue Trip Adviser either. On what grounds can he do so? Last I checked, it was perfectly legal for people to leave feedback on places they stay. If I didn’t know any better I’d say he’s just afraid of getting caught with whatever it is he’s trying to cover up.

I have had bad experiences at the venue and so have others that have been there alongside me and if it’s one thing I learned throughout this whole thing is that all you need is one person to speak up for others to hear because when you do that, others may come forward and that’s all it takes because one person can make a difference.