Truth in Advertising

The internet is a powerful weapon. It can be used for good or evil. It’s both a blessing and a curse in the hands of humans. Same goes for Facebook. Case in point: In a few weeks, there will be a holiday we call The Giving Of The Torah (Shavout) and many like to go away be it a hotel, camp or something else. So we then get bombarded with “promoters” advertising places non stop. While this is okay, truth in advertising is something that apparently is NOT in their vocabulary.  While there are promoters that get paid to advertise and bring in people, there job is also to be honest about the place they are doing it for. There’s no reason why they need to be aggressive and bullying to attract a crowd. On top of that, they have a reputation to consider and therefore they shouldn’t say things about the place when it is simply not true.Technically, they can say whatever they want because of our First Amendment rights. But to what extent?

    Okay here’s a scenario: You go away with friends on an event and you are all having a good time. Then something happens that can be serious. People come down with a bout of food poisoning with a few ending up in the hospital. Fast forward to a year later where you have the same organizers going back to the same place.

Next Scenario: You know of a place that in it’s heyday, used to be the place to be but over the years it fell into a state of disrepair. Now you go there and see for yourself the shape it’s in. One year later, you see the promoters doing their thing and you know that it’s not true. What do you do? Do you have an obligation to inform others especially if they may have allergies?

Why do I bring this up? Because I did just that and all hell broke loose. Sure I knew it was going to happen but I felt that it had to be done because someone has to stand up for their fellow singles. I’ve been burned and/or trapped and I don’t want that happening to others. In fact, when it does (and it has) people get turned off from ever wanting to attend another event and why should they have to suffer because of that? 

    Promoters have a responsibility because they are  representing the venue and, in some cases,themselves as well. So if you are advertising a place that is: “Beautiful with impeccable service and a sell out crowd with a great singles program and you know that some of this is the opposite what do you do? First of all, because a promoter is representing the venue that venue has a certain image and if  I, as a promoter, misrepresent that to the public there’s a question of morals that come into play. One is: People will come based on what I advertised. Two: They will come because of the price. Now you get there and find out the place is falling apart and not at all what was advertised. So now you have a problem. people will be up in arms for being lied to which means now that venue’s image has now changed because of what the promoters did. Here’s the thing though: While I understand promoters are being paid to do just that, there’s no reason why they need to be aggressive and bullish about it. Eventually people will come because of it but they will find out the truth.. Then what? 

   So when you start to publicly list all the events with the pros and cons and then get attacked for it, that is what I don’t understand. What is wrong with doing that?  People don’t have a right to know if they don’t know which venue to go to? All you do is put the options out to help them decide… 

Same thing with the food poisoning. Sure it happens. That’s life but as an organizer, it’s your responsibility to make sure these things don’t happen again. Well, no, there’s more to it then that. You, the organizer, are in charge of everyone that is at the event which means that if something goes wrong it is your job to own up and admit it and then apologize not to deny it and blame it on someone who wasn’t even there. It’s common sense really. Think about it. If word gets out (and it usually does) what do you think will happen? Well, do you really trust this person again? Do you go on their events in the future? A person’s reputation is very important and in my opinion, it can be ruined in an instant.  Like I said, shit happens but you have to be able to deal with the outcome of it. How far does one go to inform others about said place without crossing a line? It’s funny. No matter what you do or how you do it, there will be those that will hate you for it and those that will support you for it and that’s okay because people who really know you know that you are just trying to be a good person by helping others out. But if it’s one thing I learned it’s that you have to prepared for what comes once you make those posts.

      Speaking of which: It is very unprofessional (and probably unethical) for any business to threaten you with a lawsuit for posting something they don’t agree with especially when it is in public domain. Promoters and venue management cross a line when they start messaging and bullying everyone who posts a comment to your post asking it to be removed. Forget the fact that Freedom of Speech allows people to say whatever they want within reason, but if everyone got annoyed at every bad review out there then where would our entertainment value be? It’s the nature of life. Besides, it makes you look bad and gives you a bad name when you do it.

  I understand that it’s a business and that they try to do the best they can to make people happy and happy customers are returning ones. But they also don’t want to be lied to. If someone is paying $400 for a weekend he/she wants to get their money’s worth. In today’s day and age, the way the economy is, people will be cautious how they spend it and where they spend it. Sometimes giving people different options listing the pros and cons of each can be helpful to them and they will thank you in the end.

And really this is what it really comes down to. There are some honest event planners and promoters out there who care about their reputation and their people and then there are others who are just in it for the money and could care less about what you you think and that is just wrong because eventually the truth will come out and people will expose them for who they really are. But until that happens, someone has to take a stand and do what’s right. People will either appreciate you for it or they will do what they can to make you look bad which is expected. But when people start to follow in your lead and support you, what happens then? Will these “promoters” still trash you and deny it all? As Captain Picard once said: “The line must be drawn here and now” and when that happens, more people will come out in support of you and say no more and when that day comes  hopefully it’ll mean more singles will be able to continue going to events without any problems.

Let me leave you with this powerful yet appropriate quote. 

“To Thine Own Self Be True:—- William Shakespeare.



A Day With Flipper And Friends

I’ve been telling people that I’m going swimming with Flipper and stopping along the way to “Free Willy” but I ended up on a ship (or was it a boat).. Still fun and here’s why: Well, most of you reading this already know since you were with me but isn’t it fun to repeat it especially when you have the evidence to show? Anyway, we, and by we I mean the Captain, sailed way, way out to sea (which took an hour). Once there, he stopped the boat/ship and it was time to search for Flipper. Dolphins are known as the “humans” of the ocean and apparently there are two types of dolphins. Porpoises and Bottle nose (though their noses look nothing like a bottle so…). Dolphins are also very agile swimmers which means they are fast. I mean really, really fast. So fast that it was hard to take pictures of them because they don’t  stay in one place. Honestly, I was hoping they’d come up to us and play because they are known as very playful animals. I wonder if they even noticed us. They just kept swimming, swimming… Oops wrong type of animal…. Besides,  Nemo’s already been found) Now, we kept moving to try to find Willy. Some days Willy can be seen. Sometimes not. I guess they found Willy yesterday because, well um cause he was nowhere to be found.

On the weird side: When you go out to sea, it does get a bit scary because not only did we get wet (if you were standing in certain spots),  but the boat rocked back and forth so much so that it felt like we were all drunk because we were bouncing all over the place (hello Tigger) because it got “violent” at times especially on the way back (it was worse like a storm was coming) and without holding on for dear life, one could have easily gone overboard or find a new love (friend if your don’t go that way) .

But it was a fun day out. It’s always fun to be on a boat and the wind blowing on you. Being  out on the ocean is so peaceful, romantic and just alone with your thoughts it really does make thing be put into perspective. Also, Cape May is a wonderful place to visit..  I can say a lot more on this post about the adventure but I think this time I’ll just let the pictures and videos speak for me this time around.

My Strange Tubing Incident.

So, a few have you have asked me what exactly happened yesterday because I was being a bit vague in my status . Therefore, I have decided to write this note as a way of detailing it and maybe inspire at the same time. While I have tagged those who commented and asked, I will NOT be throwing out names of those that were with me due to privacy and protection.

As some of you know, I went tubing on the Delaware River for a few hours and it was relaxing, beautiful and overall fun. The first half we were separated and split up (we went in one by one at different times) and basically just being alone on our own. It was after the break from “lunch” at the hot dog stand where the incident began to happen.

This time, we all got back in our tubes (though somehow I ended up taking the wrong size tube) and for fun, we strapped tubes together for a while. There,  4 of us in a group and one person fell out and poor guy every time he tried getting back in, we all ganged up on him and kept making it difficult for him to get back in. After awhile, my friend(I said I will not name who ) and I decided to leave them and just go our own way. There were rapids and there was one we missed and said friend wanted to go to the rapids we missed and because we were in shallow water, I happily obliged.

I got out of my tube and pulled friend’s tube (with them in it) and mine to the rapids where we missed. I was getting tired but i didn’t tell my friend because I know they were having fun and enjoying it as was I. We were just fooling around and having fun that I put my tube down to get back in it when it floated away and we both went after it. Me on foot and friend on tube but at some point I started to swim towards it which is when the fooling around took a turn for the worse.

The river had waves which is a a lot worse when your actually in the water. I started to swim to shallow (well, I tried) but the waves kept pushing me further out. After a few minutes, I started to realize I needed help because I was “drowning” and fighting with the waves that were strong. I saw a raft up ahead so I screamed as loud as I could asking for help. At first they thought I was joking because they saw what happened moments earlier but this was no jopking matter.I couldn’t swim or tread because the waves were powerful and every time I tried, the waves were pushing me. (At this piont I remembered what I learned in First Aid Class which is when the waves over take you, call for help. Surprised I remembered that.. Instinct maybe?)

Finally, a staff member came with a canoe and told me to hold the ring hole in front and took me to shallow water. After I came back to reality, I started walking down the shallow path hoping to find my tube and my friend but when I saw 3 of my other ones, I screamed at them to come over. Thinking he was being funny, he volunteered his life jacket to me when I needed a tube when lo and behold a yellow boat came driving by asking if i was Ezzy. When I said yes, he had my tube for me.

When I tried to get in, instead of helping me, my friends just sat there watching the show they thought I was giving them. Yeah, it’s funny now but some friends you guys were at the time. 🙂

Oh, and back at shore, I was really stuck in mud and I had to find a new”best friend” because mine were hysterical laughing.  🙂

The irony of all this is that it happened on the eve of the 9 days and I saw my life flashing before my eyes. I have never been as scared and petrified as I was yesterday and I really thought I was a goner (I’m NOT exaggerating) and I might have been if  I wasn’t rescued when I was.

In closing, I just want to thank that special friend (you know who you are) for sticking by me and sending me my tube back when no one else did and for worrying if I’d make it back in one piece. You have my eternal gratitude and I wish I can thank you because it was very sweet and meant a lot to me and I’m not sure I can put it it all into words.

P.S. This doesn’t deter me from doing these kind of activities ever again but I do believe that  G-D kept me alive for some reason I may never know. 🙂